Does any of this sound familiar?
- You have a busy brain that never shuts down. Your thoughts start on one track and quickly move to others, jumping all over the place.
- Your thoughts keep you awake at night, worrying about everything: kids, marriage, job, house, bills, and on and on it goes.
- You wake up exhausted and already anxious about the day ahead.
You like to gather as much information as you can before making decisions so you will know the “right” thing to do. Even with all the information, after making decisions, you often second guess them, worrying that you should have done something different.
- You procrastinate on projects and then feel overwhelmed by deadlines or just the idea of trying to get it all done.
- If you make a mistake you think endlessly about it, feeling shame, blaming yourself or others (inwardly or outwardly).
- You feel a running undercurrent of dissatisfaction in your life.
- You are stressed almost every day, especially now with current global conditions.
- You distract yourself with social media, Netflix, food, alcohol, keeping yourself busy, and even exercise. You just need a break from all the thoughts…
I’ve been where you are. I’ve been an overthinker for most of my life and on the plus side it’s helped me achieve many things I wanted to do. On the negative side, I almost never felt good about any of those achievements for more than a minute because my thoughts were on to the next thing I should be doing or how I could have done better. I was inwardly judgmental about myself, so of course was judgmental about how others could be doing it better. I would gather and analyze as much information as I could to make sure I made the “right” decisions about everything. Perfectionism caused me to procrastinate, then I would second guess the decisions once I made them. About all of it. My parenting, my performance at work, relationships. If I made a mistake I would beat myself up, thinking endlessly about how I should have done it instead. Or I would secretly blame others to make myself feel better. Only it didn’t. It made me feel powerless, upset, and anxious, with nothing resolved.
I found coaching and my life changed. Learning how to stop overthinking every situation and interaction was huge for me. Thoughts still come and go but they are no longer in charge of how I feel. I’m the driver and they have to ride in the back seat. I feel so much more peace and joy in my life every day. Not perfect. I still wake up with the thoughts and some anxiety. But now I have the tools to manage my thoughts and feelings, and I use them every day. My sleep is so much better and I wake up looking forward to my day instead of dreading it. I’m much more productive–much less procrastination from overthinking too many details–and I’m able to enjoy the results. Coaching gave me my life back and I can help you get yours back too.
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